I hope you are having a fabulous and happy 4th of July!
I have always enjoyed the 4th of July! It always meant going over to my Grandma’s house to swim, BBQ, and hang out with my family and watch the fireworks. As I’ve got older though I started to find parties this time of year a bit stressful. I know, they’re supposed to be fun right!? So why was I so nervous? Because finding and wearing a swimsuit in front of others used to give me heart palpitations to be completely honest! Last year was actually the worst and the best 4th of July ever which really helped shift my perspective once more!
I can’t believe what a difference a year can make and how much has changed since last 4th of July!
This time last year I was approximately 6 months postpartum after having my second child. I personally felt I had come quite a long way from where I was 6 months postpartum after my first child. I had been deep in depression and separation anxiety that was seriously impacting my quality of life but I had come far and was in a good place last year. Depression long gone and had finally felt a sense of balance as my family of 3 became 4. I was beginning to feel like myself again! It was great and I was excited for future, and then the future came in the form of an invite to a 4th of July pool party.
Many of my old insecurities came rushing back. I was upset I had come so far and had done so much work to shift out of that negative thought process and self talk; yet there I was, invited to a pool party. I did honestly want to go to because I really enjoy the company and friendship of those that invited me. However I was letting societal pressures of ‘getting back to a pre-pregnancy body’ freak me out for basically no reason.
I ended up waiting way to long to finally purchase a new swimsuit that fit me and was not in love with my final choice – a solid black tankini that had a skirt bottom….basically as covered as I could be. So frustrating! Why did I care so much about how I looked in a bathing suit? I was so mad at myself for feeling this way yet I couldn’t help it. Do you know what I saw when we finally did show up to the party?? After all that unnecessary stress I saw….
Beautiful women of all sizes rocking the cutest bikinis, one-pieces and the best accessory – their self confidence!
I was blown away! Everyone was so awesome and didn’t have a care in the world, we all just enjoyed the party! Free from judgement and fear I saw how easy it is to fall back into things that may have once held me back. But I also learned that each new experience can be used to shift back into a positive frame of mind again. I’m thankful for last year’s party and some of the insecurities I was finally able to let go of. This year I don’t give a crap what I look like! I’m going to rock whatever I want in that pool and have a great time!
Learn from my experience and know that you KICK ASS IN THAT SUIT! NOW GO ROCK IT AND HAVE FUN THIS 4TH OF JULY!!!
Trust me, the stress is unnecessary and you look great. What matters more is that you enjoy yourself and feel free from judgement. A bathing suit shouldn’t make anyone feel terrible or stressed out!
Contact me if you are interested in showing off your awesome suit and body – I offer pool boudoir sessions in my private pool! If you’re looking for some ideas for your own session, you can check out some of the other pool boudoir sessions I’ve done in my portfolio.
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